I’m ready to start taking names
When I first started writing this post, it was before all the news about Britney and her conservatorship.
All I can think of when I read those stories is how you don’t hear about men being treated that way and about how history doesn’t change.
Isn’t this how women – inconvenient women – have always been treated?
Witches. Whores. Crazy.
When women don’t agree with the men, the men need to get them in line.
When women challenge men, men need to get the women in line.
That, by the way, is what Mr T’s father told him to do to me when I challenged him once. I mostly kept my mouth shut around Mr T’s dad because he punished any challenge to his jerkiness by taking it out on Mr T’s mom, but one time, Father in Law, FIL for short because I don’t want to waste time thinking of a name for him (also – have you noticed how most of the women in the Bible don’t have names? Does that make you as angry as it makes me?)
Anyhow, FIL had said something to my lovely niece and FIL was wrong and I was tired of it and I challenged him and – well, it ended with FIL calling Mr T into his bedroom to tell Mr T to – yes – GET ME IN LINE.
Which Mr T laughed when he told me the story because Mr T and I?
We are aligned on the fact that his dad was a jerk. Now, six years after his parents’ death, we are even more aligned but WOW HAVE I GOTTEN OFF TOPIC.
I apologize to Britney Spears.
To Monica Lewinsky.
To Jessica Simpson.
To Katherine Heigl.
To Shannon Dougherty.
To any woman who has been mocked and derided in public because she is “difficult.” Or doesn’t conform.
Or, like Britney, who was clearly troubled and needed help and we – I – I cannot speak for the rest of you, but I did this. I did this and I am ashamed. I laughed at her and I mocked her. I mocked her as she shaved her head, even though I knew that when women cut off their own hair, it’s a sign of distress.
I absorbed the story that these women were not doing it right and deserved the way they were being treated.
They were challenging the status quo!
And we can’t have that, can we?
I was going along with the story as I was seeing it instead of thinking for myself and wondering why Britney and Katherine and Shannon and Jessica and Monica and any disagreeable woman might be labeled as such.
If you stand up for yourself – if you counter the prevailing narrative, you will be shot down.
I am sorry that I didn’t defend my fellow women. But I will defend them now.