And where the president makes over $1,000,000 a year, making him one of the ten highest-paid college presidents in the US
You know what pisses me off?
You know what pisses me off even more?
Women who do not support other women.
I’m not going to get into work stuff here about Queen Bee women who don’t support other women and who actively work against them – I don’t do that because You Never Know, but I will talk about what’s going on in my college alumni facebook group right now.
An undergrad wrote an editorial for the school paper proposing that the school stock free menstrual supplies in the restrooms.
I think that is a great idea.
There are people who think it is not.
Many of the people who think this is a bad idea are men. I can maybe excuse them because THEY DON’T HAVE AN F*ING CLUE WHAT THEY ARE TALKING ABOUT, but there are also women who are all, Oh but you know by the time you are in college, you really need to learn to fend for yourself and get those luxuries on your own.
How nice it must be to have a life where the issue of a few dollars here or there has never been critical.
And how lucky I am that a few dollars here or there has never been critical.
But – I knew people for whom it has been critical.
And even if I didn’t know people for whom a few dollars are critical, I would hope I would understand that it matters.
So there are women – WOMEN – saying that nope, the school should not stock the women’s rooms with tampons and pads because women should pay for their own darn stuff themselves and should learn responsibility and my gosh there is no free lunch and how will these entitled millennials ever learn and get off my lawn.
Women who say screw you. Screw you other women. Women who say, I had to put myself through school I had to work hard why shouldn’t everyone else?
To which I say, I, too, had to put myself through school.
I had a job even before I arrived for my first day of college.
I didn’t even know this was weird until about a year ago. A month before I started college, I wrote to someone in the athletic department and asked for a job as a lifeguard. I included a copy of my American Red Cross lifeguard certificate, which meant I had to go to a copy shop to get it copied. You young people have no idea how good you have things now. 🙂
(Which is a good thing! Life should not be hard when it can be easy!)
But yeah – a friend pointed out to me that this was not usual. That most students don’t do this.
I borrowed money and I worked 20 hours a week during the school year and I worked 60 hours a week during the summer.
And I see this proposal to stock tampons and pads and my first thought is not, I DIDN’T GET THAT WHY SHOULD ANYONE ELSE?
And I am actually very much a, You don’t work, you don’t eat person.
But I am also, If a person doesn’t have tools, how can she work? person.
So these women who do say, “I had to work hard so why shouldn’t you work hard” – what is going on in their heads?
First of all, the campus jobs we had?
They don’t even exist anymore. I waited tables at the faculty club at lunch and I worked parties there on the weekends. It was the perfect student job.
That job has been outsourced and is no longer a student job.
There used to be students checking IDs at the cafeterias, the library, and the gym.
Not anymore. Now there are scanners.
Second, tuition is now about 40 gajillion times higher than when we were students.
Seriously. It was about $8,000 a year room and board when I was an undergrad. Now it’s $60,000, I think? I came out of school $13,000 in debt. My first job paid $20,000 a year. My debt/salary ratio was 13/20.
Now, students come out of school $200,000 in debt for a job paying $20,000. Debt/salary ratio is 10/1.
Third, WHY ARE YOU BEING SO MEAN?
I mean, really?
Is this your philosophy of life? “I had it hard so I want to make sure everyone else does, too?”
You remind me of Mr T’s father, who was so furious at Thanksgiving one year when my nephew and niece took all white meat.
Not, they took all the white meat and nobody else could have any, but, they served themselves each about four ounces of white meat. From a platter containing 20 pounds of turkey.
- Mr T’s father told my nephew and niece to serve themselves first
- There was a 100-lb turkey for ten people
- Not really 100 lbs – but more than enough white meat for everyone
- Mr T’s father screamed at my lovely sister in law, telling her she was a bad mother for not teaching her children better
- Mr T’s father did not scream at his own son for not being a better father
- Mr T’s father should not have screamed at anyone except maybe himself
- There was enough white meat
- You don’t shame your dinner guests, ever
- You don’t shame your grandchildren, ever
- You don’t scream at people, ever
- Mr T’s father screamed that when he was a kid, he never would have taken the white meat because – I don’t know why – maybe because children don’t deserve the Good Meat?
- Isn’t the whole damn point to give your children a better life than you had?
- A year later, Mr T’s father mused, as he carved the turkey, that he never had liked the white meat – it was too dry. He preferred the dark meat
So, women who think we should not offer free pads and tampons in the ladies’ rooms. Because nobody did this for you is a good reason that we should not do this for the next generation?
Should we not be working together to make things easier for the young women who follow us? Or do we just want to sit here and watch them suffer? What the hell is wrong with you?
Women should help other women. We should do everything we can to help young women succeed.